I also say “thanks for the update” or “thanks for the head’s up!”
“I really appreciate the head’s up!” also a classic
If I haven’t gotten back to someone in a swift enough period (i.e. one work day max) I say “thank you for your patience. after some consideration, I have decided…”
don’t apologize for piddly things!
thank you > sorry
I need to remember
thank you > sorry
Thank you for waiting for me > sorry for being late
Thank you for helping me/for your time/for listening to me > sorry for bothering you
Thanking someone when they do you a favour > apologizing for your existence
This is especially hard when you haven’t been taught that people need to respect your limits, but with a bit of practice you can absolutely get there!
Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you’re willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say “no, I don’t have the time/energy to help you with that.” You can be a kind person and still say “this makes me uncomfortable, please stop.” You can be a kind person and still say “I disagree and here’s why.” You can be kind and still say “I’m not okay with this.” Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!
“Attraction isn’t something that only happens once, with one person. It’s part of what drives humans. So when you decide to commit to someone, you aren’t saying, ‘I promise I’ll never be attracted to anyone else.’ You’re saying, ‘I promise to commit to you, despite my potential future attraction to other people”. - Morgan, Regretting You